tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post4953192535561573715..comments2024-01-12T02:50:35.638-06:00Comments on Problem Girl: Thoughts on spankingJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13170131429639166827noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-65117173374645056922007-05-11T14:32:00.000-05:002007-05-11T14:32:00.000-05:00I think you have to use the form of discipline tha...I think you have to use the form of discipline that works with your child. I think you have to find what motivates your child. For example - if you do *this bad thing* then you lose privledges, or you get spanked, or you get a timeout...or if you don't do *this bad thing* then you get extra playtime, or a cookie, or a gold star or whatever. Spanking should be a last resort, and should definately not be used as the primary means of discipline, in my opinion. We haven't gotten to that point with our son but when we do we'll treat him with the same care and respect that we hope he will have for others.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06852370810434534235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-2781456720102001252007-05-10T12:00:00.000-05:002007-05-10T12:00:00.000-05:00I, too, do not squish bugs. However, I can vividl...I, too, do not squish bugs. However, I can vividly remember the two times I was spanked as a child (just two firm swats, really), and it wasn't so much the spanking that embedded the message in my head, as the frame of mind I remember my father being in. if he was that angry, I must've been doing something wrong. so I didn't do it again.<BR/><BR/>I don't know yet how I feel about spanking, but I appreciate your frank discussion of it, as always :)<BR/><BR/>who did you have do elle's photos, btw? am looking for a place to take my goddaughter to surprise her father for father's day. and yours turned out so wonderfully.Alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16870527550255669643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-65622768696640040942007-05-10T02:12:00.000-05:002007-05-10T02:12:00.000-05:00Man I can't even squash bugs. I certainly couldn't...Man I can't even squash bugs. I certainly couldn't hit a little person that popped out of my wifes vagina.<BR/><BR/>If I was married.Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10170022915332546512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-48223116910898911332007-05-09T22:20:00.000-05:002007-05-09T22:20:00.000-05:00I completely agree with you. I just cannot grasp h...I completely agree with you. I just cannot grasp how hitting your child could be anything other than hitting your child. despite what many say the only lesson I see in that is "I'm bigger and if you don't do what I say I'll hurt you". And that is no lesson I want my children learning. I was spanked as a child. I don't remember why, I don't even remember the physical spanking. But I remember the feelings of guilt and shame that came from them. I didn't stop my action because I learned it was wrong, I stopped my action because I knew that if I didn't they would hit me again. It wasn't abuse, they didn't use anything but their hands, they didn't leave marks or strike in anger. But that still left a negative impression that i never want to pass on to my children.<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/147932/does_spanking_equal_discipline.html" REL="nofollow">Does Spanking Equal Discipline?</A>Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14844768800689591555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-66445720817334199252007-05-09T22:15:00.000-05:002007-05-09T22:15:00.000-05:00Well, I have 3 sons by adoption who were beaten, b...Well, I have 3 sons by adoption who were beaten, broken and/or otherwise abused. No, I don't spank them.<BR/><BR/>Very well written post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-80459327141905985372007-05-09T17:22:00.000-05:002007-05-09T17:22:00.000-05:00I wasn't spanked as a child I was WHOOPED! I'm ta...I wasn't spanked as a child I was WHOOPED! I'm talking shoes, belts, switches and extension chords. That kind of spanking is a bit extreme (just a tad, heh), but I do believe in spanking.<BR/><BR/>Using the knob incident as an example, I would rather my kid get hurt a little bit by me then get permanently burned messing with the oven. If it's done right and thought out and not done with anger it can be a very effective tool.<BR/><BR/>You just have to make sure it's not damaging. That said different strokes and all that. If you can't stomach doing it then the impact isn't going to come through. There are other ways to teach and discipline, I'm sure you'll find a healthy balance.StickyKeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00208754873347518619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11653780.post-53489818190698670272007-05-09T15:34:00.000-05:002007-05-09T15:34:00.000-05:00Okay, the computer ate my last comment, so here go...Okay, the computer ate my last comment, so here goes again.<BR/><BR/>I really liked reading your thoughts on spanking and it was very well written.<BR/><BR/>I don't have kids and don't have plans to have any, but I don't think I would spank. <BR/><BR/>I too was told at the ripe old age of 15 that I could spank the kids I babysat for. Just for the record, I did not spank them. Looking back now, it seems so ludicrous. I can't imagine if I did have kids that I would ever tell anyone else, much less a teenager that they could spank my kids.<BR/>ShelleyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com