Tuesday, February 08, 2011

Choices are hard

So I'm facing a BIG DECISION right now.  I didn't sleep at all last night because I was thinking and wondering and pondering and considering.

Nothing is official yet so I can't really share any details but the main point is that I have been presented with a really interesting surrogacy opportunity.  I have a lot of reasons to believe it would be a good match and that I would not regret moving forward with it.

The hitch is that this surrogacy would involve a straight couple.  This sort of terrifies the living bejesus out of me.  What if the intended mother is a total loon and gets jealous or starts acting weird?  I have a lot of evidence to indicate this would not be the case but ... I don't know.  I"m used to working with men.  I feel like I know where I fit in there.  Adding an intended mother freaks me out.

But, BUT, have I mentioned the benefits of this match?  They could be ... considerable.

So now I don't know what to do. 


One year ago today I knocked my kids around.
Four years ago today my babies were cute but some people were not.


Stimey said...

But think of all the Minnie Mouse figurines...

I'm sorry. I'm going to flog that one for years. Think how happy Joseph will be if you have babies so you can buy him stuff. :)

If the intended mother is a total loon, can't you have your agency set some rules? I bet you can handle it, 'cause you're awesome.

Anonymous said...

Oh my! A straight couple? Have you thought about what this would do to your reputation!!

Seriously, I am curious about the benefits, other than being able to buy Joseph stuff he wants.

I guess you will just have to examine your heart and follow where it leads.

Love you..... your MIL Judy

Lindsay said...

The mother could be lovely... just sayin'

Anonymous said...

Jen, I thought a little bit more about this. The common denominator is that this is a couple that very much wants to have child. It shouldn't matter if it is a straight couple or a gay couple. The intended mother will probably be very grateful for what you are able to give her. I know it is a difficult decision, but whatever you decide is the way it is supposed to be. Just trust your instincts and your heart.

Love you, your MIL, Judy

Emily said...

I would like you to text me in reference to this as I feel out of touch with your life.