Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Parenting's ugly side

I am really struggling with Joseph right now. We've had a rough couple of days and I'm just about at my wit's end. He's been whiny, rude, sassy and disruptive. I got a note from his teacher today telling me that he's been the same way at school. He knows that if he gets a bad report from school that he won't get any computer time in the evening. I told him no computer today and he told me "Noooo! My teachers are big fat liars! I heard them say that they were going to lie to you!"

I'm having such a tough time with him and it's just so frustrating. Elle is nothing but sweetness and sunshine and she lights up when she sees me. Joseph, on the other hand, said he was going to "give me a knuckle sandwich" last night. It's sometimes hard for me to put the effort into dealing with him when he's being so difficult because it's so much easier and rewarding being with her. I know that those are the times that I have to put twice the effort in with him though. It's just so darned frustrating sometimes. It's the less than pleasant side of parenting that I never really knew about before. Even though I love my chilren the same I don't always like them the same and that's a little bit of a yucky feeling.


In other news Elle has learned how to grunt. She does it all the time. When she's happy, when she's sad, when she's pooping, all the time. She grunts the loudest and expressivly when she's nursing though. I think it's her version of purring. She's a funny baby.

Joseph is a funny kid too when he's not bugging the ever loving snot out of me. And there's a little boy in his class who looks like Flavor Flav. That's got to count for something right?


Anonymous said...

Hold on a minute. There's a down side to parenting? And, you didn't know about it before?
Am I reading the wrong blog?

Grandma Judy said...

OH honey.......that is just the beginning. He is smart so his arguments will just get better...Hang in there..Have you tried asking him why he is behaving that way?? There might be a reason...maybe he will share it with you. - Judy

Mom or Dad said...

Here's my idea. The two of you should take one day a week and spend a couple of hours doing something together-just the two of you. I think Joseph probably really misses having you all to himself and it will be a good chance for you to see his funny, absolutely adorable side.